nother reminded me personally regarding the i’d first tried to get sober, almost 13 years ago weekend. I happened to be managing one guy, beginning a relationship with a moment, had possessed a stand that is one-night a 3rd, and had been planning to have another one-night stand with a 4th. During the right time, we categorized this as bad behavior. And undoubtedly it absolutely was, though i could see more demonstrably now why: it had been centered on desire. My desire. I’d always thought — been taught — that my convenience of sexual interest had been bad, and incorrect. That my attempting to bang four dudes in close proximity needed to be some indication of traumatization, or maladaptiveness.